Online Dating Anxiety

The shy guy has two choices: to go on a blind date or try online dating. Both seem scary at first, but both can have their perks as well.

The shy guy and the blind date

Imagine the scenario for the shy guy on a blind date. You are the shy guy, and your friend decides that you need help with your love life. Your friend knows a friend of a friend of a friend. So he sets you up on a blind date. Being the shy guy, you are nervous but decide to be brave since you realize that your friend is right about your love life. The best part of the upcoming date is that you are meeting an actual person. This is nerve-racking if you are a shy person but at least the person is not a complete stranger. On the blind date, the two of you will probably go to a restaurant. At dinner, your date will begin to tell you about her. She may or may not be a match for you. If you find her boring, your blind date was not a success. You look at your watch and discover that only 10 minutes has passed.

The shy guy and the online date

Now imagine a date with someone you met through online dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you do not need to be introduced.  You already know this person because you have had many conversations online and have even spoken on the phone. You decide to meet in person. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests.  You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where has the time gone.

There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing someone for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there?  Now which one would you rather have?

For the Shy Guy with Online Dating Anxiety

Dating in general can be nerve-racking, especially for the shy guy. What the shy guy will discover with online dating, however, is that is not too different from dating someone for the first time. This fact alone should ease the stress that goes along with online dating anxiety. At this point, the shy guy has probably spent weeks, months, if not years, communicating with someone online who interests him and is ready for the first date. There are some things the shy guy can do to ensure that the date goes smoothly.

Hygiene You are the so-called shy guy and you are probably worried about first impressions.  By being hygienic, you are starting off on the right foot. Presenting yourself as tidy is something that you can prepare for before the date even begins. You should make sure to brush your teeth and comb your hair. Little gestures like these go a long way in a woman’s world.

Timeliness If the shy guy is here to dress and impress, then he should be on time too! People with online dating anxiety worry all the time, and worrying about being late just adds to the stress. You should avoid being late, or else your date will start to think that you stood her up.

Plan ahead…but only a little There is nothing wrong with planning out your date ahead of time. Try not to over think things, though. Your main goal should be to get to know your date, such as what she likes to do for fun.

Open Your Mouth and Your Ears You may be relieved to find that your date is a real chatterbox, but this does not mean that you are free to remain reticent all night. By listening to your date, the shy guy gets to find out what her interests are. You should pick an interest of hers that you can relate to and talk about it. That way, the conversation will not feel as forced and the two of you can connect on a more personal level.

Avoid these topics! This is just the first date, so there is no need to engage in an emotional conversation that may potentially ruin the evening. Two topics to avoid on a first date are politics and religion. These are two topics that people have really strong beliefs about, and there may not be room for disagreement.

Don’t judge The shy guy may have formed an idea in his head about what his potential date looks like or acts like. This is only natural, but you should not judge your date if she is not exactly what you had imagined her to be. Remember, she had an idea in her mind of what you would be like too. The first date is about having an open mind and an open heart.

Are you tired of being put in the friend category? It is time for a change. Every guy deserves to have someone he can come home to.  Learn how to approach any woman, any where and know exactly what to say to her. Learn how to get a date even if you’re not super good looking. Tell me more!