Oprah and Will Smith’s advice can help with panic anxiety attacks
If you have anxiety panic attacks, the last thing you want to do is do something that will trigger them. This is a “safe” way to live but can also be very boring. This is because anxiety panic attacks can stop you from experiencing live and even threaten your love life. Fortunately, Oprah had a well-known celebrity on her show, Will Smith, and he has valuable advice for anyone who gets anxious about the first date. Will Smith also provides advice for the second date and third date as well. On this episode of Oprah, Will Smith is nicknamed the “Date Doctor.” Go Will! (direct link):
Will stresses the “three-date rule.” “But always keep in mind that a rule is not a hundred percent,” he says. “A rule is an accepted principle that will work most of the time. So you can get in the moment, but you can always adjust it and throw it out.”
Date No. 1
The “first-date” rule is: Illuminate the best part of yourself. “It’s not about hiding anything; it’s not about deceiving.” Will says. “It’s: Illuminate the things that you like most about yourself and that people like generally most about yourself.
Date No. 2
Will says the motto for the second date is: Exchange coupled with range. He explains, “So the idea of exchange is that there’s something that you want to present as an offer of who you are. And there is something that is received back. It could be a poem that your grandmother wrote-you’re actually sharing some aspect of yourself.” Most often, when you present your date with something about yourself, they will also open up. “That is an exchange and an offer,” Will says.
Date No. 3
The third date is about “keeping it real.” “After you’ve had a great first date, you’ve had a great second date-you don’t want to waste your time dating.” Will says. “You don’t want to have five months with somebody, and… you find out you’re not vibing after five months.”
That is why by the third date, Will says, it’s time to show your date your habits and quirks. “You let a little more of that [to] be seen because you don’t want to hide that. It’s like that is the essence of who you are. So, you want to know in 10 or 12 days that she can’t live with it so you can move on.” Besides, Will says, your habits and quirks aren’t things you can hide.
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