4 Things to Consider When Communicating Online
Just five or six years ago online dating was extremely taboo, but with the increased popularity of social sites like Facebook and Myspace – meeting potential mates online has become more the norm. Although online dating eliminates a lot of the nervousness and butterflies that you may experience in person, there is still a right and wrong way to approach introducing yourself to someone online. Here are the top mistakes to avoid
1. Read the profile thoroughly: Let’s face it, no one likes to be asked the same question multiple times – not even when meeting in person. If you introduce yourself and say “Hi, my name is John” and someone immediately turns around and asks you for your name, wouldn’t you be slightly annoyed? Don’t make that mistake online! I know some online profiles can become a bit long winded, but take the few minutes and actually read it. If you send a message to a person asking the very questions they answered in their profile, they will immediately trash your message.
2. Use their profile to your advantage: Because so few people actually take the time to read profiles, people are usually impressed by those who do. This is especially so with women. When sending your initial message to a person, reference something that was said in their profile greeting. It may be a small tidbit about their love of dogs, or a note that they are allergic to cats – it doesn’t really matter what it is, just be sure to highlight the fact that you read it.
3. Compliment them: People tend to put their best face forward when it comes to online dating profiles, be sure to give a sincere and respectable compliment. Ladies it’s really important that you remember to do this when initiating contact with men. The same way that women like to be complimented, men like to also have their egos stroked a little bit.
4. Don’t pressure the next step: Your relationships can’t remain “online” forever, you will eventually need to move them to the “IRL” arena for it to go anywhere. There is no set schedule for when this needs to happen, but never pressure the next step. It’s best to just leave the door open for possibilities, do not come off as pressuring or in a rush, some may take this as a red flag warning sign. It’s ok to say things like “There’s no rush, but if you’d like to email me directly you can reach me at {email address}”…or, “I really enjoy reading your emails every day, when you feel comfortable enough – you can always call me at home”
Generally speaking, you should treat online dating in the same way that you would a face to face meeting. Put your best font forward and let nature take it’s course! This guest article was written by the Editor at www.HowtoGetOutofTheDogHouse.com ; for more relationship advice for men, visit them today – Dating Tips for Men.
