It can be difficult to start a conversation with any guy, but it can be even harder if you’re trying to talk with a shy guy. A shy guy isn’t personally trying to make your life harder, I promise, but his quiet nature can make it especially hard to get him to open up. Here are a few tips for starting a conversation for the shy guy that you have your eye on.
Talking to the shy guy
This step is going to take a lot of guts, but there is no way around it. If you want to start a conversation with a shy guy, you’re going to have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Try not to put a lot of time into thinking about what you’re going to say, you don’t want to sound like you’ve rehearsed a script. Try to just keep it a general topic with an upbeat tone.
Once you’ve started talking: observe him. Does he look comfortable with you? Is he blushing, stammering, or shoving his hands in his pockets? Don’t take it personally if he seems extremely nervous, it’s just his shy guy nature. Try to keep the conversation going as long as it feels natural. If there is a long lull in the conversation, try bringing it to a close. Say something reassuring to him, such as: “It’s been great talking to you, but I have to run.”
Repeat these steps as often as necessary, until your shy guy starts to open up. It may take a few times, or a lot more. Just keep the conversation going; he will start to become more comfortable with you. After his nerves start easing up, allow him to direct the conversation a little more. Incorporate some flirty moves, like touching his arm while you laugh together.
Getting a shy guy to open up takes some effort, but it is worth it. If you follow these simple steps and keep a positive attitude, that shy guy will be all yours in no time! Good luck, and don’t give up!
